Are New Year’s resolutions worthwhile?

One of the wonderful changes in my life
One of the wonderful changes in my life! A new puppy simply makes life more fun. Bonus points if anyone can tell what breed she is ( I have no idea).

Well the new year is upon us and I am back to my blog.  I have been absent for a while and it feels good to be back.  Like rekindling an old friendship after many years.  Many changes have happened in the past year, both planned and unplanned, both positive and negative.  I have had health crises in my family, changes with work, new roles, much introspection, life and death.  I have reexamined my goals and priorities, as many people do this time of year.  I am hopeful to see what this year will bring.

New Year’s resolutions have become the popular thing to do at the beginning of the year.  They’re discussed on television, in emails, on blogs, etc.  We are told that we must make those resolutions in order to lose weight, eat better, exercise more, as though we can’t control ourselves without them.  However, I don’t believe in resolutions.  A quick Google search reveals that most resolutions fail.  People will start off strong but tend to lose motivation or interest after a couple of months.  They simply fall back into the same habits they always had and nothing changes.

What I believe in is goal-setting and visualization with a plan in place to achieve that goal.  If we write down what we want, we’re more likely to get it.  Even better is to create a vision board like this or this.  A vision board can be a powerful device to allow the subconscious mind to communicate with the conscious mind.  Just like the Field of Dreams quote “if you build it, he will come,” if you visualize it, it will happen.  Too often we have too much noise in our conscious mind, both internal and external, telling us we can’t do something.  It goes something like this: I want to lose 20 pounds, but I couldn’t do it last year and I can’t give up ice cream and I don’t have time to cook healthy food for myself and I’ll just go through the drive thru this once and, and, but, but…aaaahhh!  The conscious mind comes up with the excuses for not doing something and then we fail.  Sometimes we need to stop listening to all of that chaotic noise and just follow our subconscious mind that knows we can achieve what we want.

I made a vision board a while ago with my girlfriends before career and family came along, and everything on my board came true.  Honestly I didn’t consciously think too much about what was on my board.  I would glance at it now and then, but usually went about my life as usual.  However, not to be too “woo-woo,” but I put my desires out in the universe and they happened.  My subconscious brain never forgot what was on that board and guided me in my life decisions.  All I had to do was stop the excuses of what I couldn’t do and just go for it.

As I write this I realize that I need to create a new board for my current stage of life to reflect my new goals and desires.  This year my family and I have written down everything we want to achieve this year, even my girls.  Their lists are a little simpler than mine and my husband’s, but no less important.  Our lists range from playing more golf and going ziplining to potential new career opportunities.  I hope that by putting our thoughts on paper, we will be more likely to work towards them, both consciously and subconsciously.  I want my girls to realize that no idea is too simple or ridiculous.  In a world full of “no’s” they have the power to say “yes I can.”  As we cross the items off of our lists, we will realize that we are capable of many wonderful things.

Joyful thought for the day: “The time for action is now.  It’s never too late to do something”-Antione de Saint-Exupery” (Those who took French as I did might remember the classic book “Le Petit Prince” and its author)

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